On a regular basis, and particularly at every major life-changing event, I find it beneficial to take some time to reflect and think about how I can make my life better and how I can work to become a stronger person. I want to be my very best for myself, my two amazing boys, my friends and family, and my students.
Full disclaimer: This blog post is not meant to be a sermon, but rather a way for me to share some of the things I value. I acknowledge the mistakes I’ve made and understand that I will I never be “perfect.” After all, I am human! But I am continuously trying to improve to make the best choices for my life so that I can do the “right thing.” I strongly believe in karma, and know that it has come back to bite me after I have made a bad choice. Sometimes karma happens instantly, but other times it takes a while. Sooner or later your poor choices will catch up with you!
Below are some core values of which I feel strongly. Core values should guide our behaviors, decisions, and action in life. When you understand what you value, you can live in accord with those values. This can lead to greater fulfillment and, ultimately, joy. I hope my list may help you think about what you value. These are in no particular order…
1. Honesty
I want to be honest and open with my friends, family, colleagues and loved ones. Honesty truly is the best policy! Lying, cheating, and being deceptive are evil and will only bring bad karma, regardless of how big or small.
2. Kindness
I want to be a kind person and treat all people with respect, particularly with those who I may not always agree with. Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs and opinions. I hope to treat others as I would like to be treated.
3. Passion
I aim to be passionate about my life and work. In my career, I work hard and strive to be good at what I do. Please remember that if your job always feels like work, then you are in the wrong profession. Find something else to do!
4. Positivity
I try to associate with only good people! I avoid being around negative people who bring me down. If I must be around negative people, I limit my interactions as much as possible. Associating oneself with good people will help you carry only the most positive vibes.
5. Ethical
As a father and educator I want to set the example for my children and my students by making good personal and professional choices. While I’m not especially religious, I feel that being ethics are extremely important. Being ethical is a strong indicator of who you really are.
6. Persistence
It’s not always easy to find the right solution, but giving things time and being persistent will allow you to solve problems. While it may be easier to run away from from your problems, don’t. I don’t ever give up and make it a point to stay focused and on my chosen path!
7. Empathy
Being more empathetic is something that has helped me become a much better person. Try putting yourself in someone else’s shoes and think about how your choices and actions will impact other people. It is important to note, however, that you must first take care of yourself in order to be able to take care of others.
8. Gratitude
As mentioned in my previous post, I am extremely grateful for my life and everyone in it. Even though my life has been far from “perfect,” I wouldn’t change a thing. Everything happens for a reason.
9. Communication
I feel that strong communication is a prerequisite for any successful friendship or relationship. When people fail to communicate openly and honestly, the relationship is doomed. Be open and honest with whom you interact.
10. Responsibility
Responsibility comes in many forms. I strive to be an outstanding father, homemaker, teacher, coach, and friend. This takes a lot of personal responsibility. I make sure to take responsibility for my actions and don’t blame others for my problems and mistakes! Everyone makes mistakes throughout their life — some big, some small, it’s important to continually self reflect and fess up to your mistakes. When you’ve made a mistake, own up to it then do all you can to make it right!
Things I try to avoid:
Jealousy
Please don’t be jealous of other’s personal or professional successes. Instead offer congratulations and choose to create a learning experience from those that have been successful. Also, stop being jealous of other’s material possessions. It really doesn’t matter what brands you wear, what kind of car you drive, and how others see you. It’s not about status or keeping up with the Joneses!!
Not Following Through
When you agree to something, follow through. Nobody likes a wishy-washy person. People who don’t follow through lose the trust and respect of others.
A Sense of Entitlement
A sense of entitlement means that someone thinks they deserve certain privileges. WRONG! Be accountable for your actions and stop carrying a sense of entitlement. Nobody owes you anything! If you want something, earn it by working for it. It is unfortunate how may people today feel they are owed something. Stop complaining, take action, and do something.
“If you compromise your core values, you go nowhere.”
― Roy T. Bennett
Thanks for reading! Again, I’m not here to “preach,” but I just wanted to put out there some of the things that I value. If some of these values hit home for you, please feel free to leave a comment. Sending my best to you all!
Check out this great resource for a list of core values. http://www.threadsculture.com/blog/company-culture/core-values-list-threads/